Life


Hi, I hope you will enjoy your visit to Healing Through Love, my blog that offers support for those healing, or experiencing life challenges and changes.. It’s also for those who love the islands and for those who are on the other side of a loss and are finding their way to adventure and joy again.

This blog site has been a wonderful learning and growing experience for me. I have now created an official website at http://www.lisaoverman.com Where you can find inspirational and supportive articles on healing, life, relationships, travel, adventure and a host of other topics. I hope you will come for a visit and enjoy it enough to come back often. Blessings to you!

Indian Shores Beach at Sunset

There is nothing like getting to know someone new in your life to make you realize you have a lot to learn. Today seems to be a classic example of that and I have to smile and just take a deep breath and realize it’s all part of the process. No matter who we are or what we are doing that is new in our life there is always a learning curve or challenges to face and moments that seem like a monumental pain in the ass, but eventually those moment that seemed such a pain become a simple blip on the screen of our life and we find a way to meet in the middle, to embrace our new skills or learn how to explain our needs more clearly. It’s all a process and in the spirit of that process tonight I watched an episode of Men In Tree’s online and really had a good laugh as Marin and Jack moved in together and faced their own moments. It was good to see it happens to each of us. May you have a blessed day!

Photo Credit Lisa Overman

11-10-2007-04.jpgA picture of one of my favorite places in Germany. The island of Hiddensee where I was fortunate to spend a couple lovely weekends. Everything happens in divine right order.

Everyone knows that selling a house today is a situation that requires a great deal of time, energy and patience. I feel really blessed that I have had approximately eight showings in the last two and a half weeks, but what I really want is my house to be sold. So like everyone I face that eternal challenge to go with the flow and trust that everything is in DRO; Divine Right Order and that my house will sell just as it should, to the family that is most suited to my house. Waiting is a challenge, but like finding a new job, or moving to a new continent….something I have done several times over it always falls into place at the exact right moment and you experience that light bulb moment of “ah, this is why I needed to wait.”

I remember some years ago when I was searching for an international job and I lost out on one in Dresden, Germany because their email didn’t reach me in Hawaii before I headed to the job fair in Houston. I remember standing by the Dresden line saying to myself, maybe I should request an interview with this school. But, something held me back and I didn’t get in their line, didn’t interview and then flew back to Hawaii finding that they had in fact been interested in me. I was crushed and disappointed.

Fast forward another eight months I now had two job offers, one in Indonesia and one in Berlin, Germany. I opted for the Berlin, Germany post. Taking that job changed my life and deepened my love of travel and expat life. If I had taken the Dresden job I would have never met the special man who shared my life in Berlin. Everything happens for a reason, DIVINE RIGHT ORDER I remind myself today as I wait for my house to sell. Blessing and love to each of you!

Photo Credit: Lisa Overman

perseverandoequineaffection.jpgThere are so many things that demand our attention and time every single day but something I’ve learned through my many losses is to take time to appreciate the small moments, the heart felt pleasures that come into our days and nights. I had a sweet moment of reflection last night when the man I’m dating simply touched and held my hand. It was the softest, simpliest touch but it meant so very much to me. Tonight when we talked I shared what that meant to me. Many times we forget to appreciate the small things that touch our hearts and our lives. On this day, with this man I wanted him to know what his touch meant to me. May each of you find a sweet moment in your day that you treasure; may it open your heart allowing you to share what the moment meant to you, someone in your life will be appreciative.

Photo credit: Flickr photo by: Perseverando

Today as I sit here contemplating my life, I seriously feel like hopping a plane to a far away island and never looking back. I am so sick of the bullshit. I have far too many responsiblities, too many open ended situations with almost no answers for any of them. On top of this I’ve had the flu for a week, and am still dealing with the remaining cough and feelings of exhaustion. The week prior to that I was racing around preparing for my grandma’s 81rst birthday. Happy Birthday Grandma! 81 is pretty amazing! The two weeks before that found me waiting for test results to see if I had cancer. I do not. I am beyond grateful.

Today I’ve had enough of the bullshit. I am tired of being responsible for so many situations. I’m equally tired of waiting for the ellusive answers I need on more fronts than I care to think about. There are questions, so many questions, more concerns, and some very real wall scaling challenges in my life. Today I feel like packing it in, heading for the airport and saying that’s it. I’m done; I want off this freaking carnival ride.

We have all had that moment when we want to drop the phone or computer out of a five story window and watch it explode into a million pieces because we are so fed up with it we can’t bear another second. Today is my day for feeling that about my phone service. Verizon customer service to be exact. I just spent 54 minutes on hold with Verizon to disconnect my service.

For a company that professes to have the biggest network of support in the country I would say something is severely lacking when a customer has to wait 54 minutes on hold and then speak to three different reps to finally get service disconnected. Finally after 30 minutes I went online, hoping I could disconnect the service that way. I made my way through several screens searching for something that allowed me to discontinue service. Finally I found it, clicked it and got a message that said please call verizon to disconnect service. Sweet Jesus…that is screwed up! I have to say that everyone I spoke to was very friendly and helpful. But seriously how far does that go when one is ready to toss the phone off a cliff?

I kept my cool and was actually really nice to them, probably because they sincerely seemed interested in helping me and were trying their best to make sure the service was taken care of. Of course some of my frustration came from listening to their FIOS bullshit advertizing for almost an hour. It’s pretty pathetic when you’re trying to advertize your services to those of us who aleady have them! Give it a freaking rest! In the end I have actually disconnected service and received friendly support while doing it. Would I recommend anyone else calling Verizon today… not a freaking chance!

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Back in 2005 when I still knew how to have a good time, at my annual Buffett party with my grandma Betty.

If you read my last post, you know I finally said enough to home projects and spent 48 hours relaxing at the beach. Okay so reality has intervened, it is now Tuesday and home projects continue to sprout before my very eyes by the second. It is sheer force of will that is keeping me from running screaming from the house today. I spent a hot as hell part of yesterday and this morning working in my flowerbeds and landscaping to spray and kill and remove weeds. (Just so you know… it isn’t like I haven’t already done this several times this summer. I live in Florida and the intense summer heat and rain seem to make things grow in jungle proportions in just a week or so. It can become maddening and I have learned with four years experience to just take a deep breath and do what I can do and leave the rest for another day. Yes, I could force myself to spend another two hours out in the heat, on top of the hour I have already spent. I could then lie for the next 6 hours on the couch in a state of heat exhaustion… been down that road on past yrs.No, not going back there for any amount of money. So there are still some weeds in my landscaping and my house is for sale. Is that really going to deter a serious buyer, well if it is then this isn’t the house for them, end of story.

I have spent so much of the last ten months working my ass off to show this house to it’s best advantage and it was already a GREAT house. So at some point my perspective and my father looking down on me from heaven have shown me that I must care for myself. I must not constantly over do it as I have in the past.

The reality of my life is that I will wake up every day until this house is sold and I will know there are at least ten things I need to do. It’s a lot of pressure some days and weeks. But the reality is, the world is not going to end if I do one less project today and watch a baseball game or read a good book. I work far harder now on this house and my move than I ever have at a regular job and no one but my friend Myscha or someone else who works from home could understand that. Not only am I finishing a book I have spent years writing, but I’m cleaning, organizing, packing, donating and keeping a house show ready every damn day…as a single woman. Today, I worked on the yard, I’m doing laundry and the rest of the day I might just drink margarita’s or malibu rum. If this was the last day I had on earth I certainly would not want to spend it making my yard perfect. So I’m keeping some perspective, doing some of the work and leaving the rest for another day, realizing this is my life and I want to enjoy it as well.

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