December 2007

We have all had that moment when we want to drop the phone or computer out of a five story window and watch it explode into a million pieces because we are so fed up with it we can’t bear another second. Today is my day for feeling that about my phone service. Verizon customer service to be exact. I just spent 54 minutes on hold with Verizon to disconnect my service.

For a company that professes to have the biggest network of support in the country I would say something is severely lacking when a customer has to wait 54 minutes on hold and then speak to three different reps to finally get service disconnected. Finally after 30 minutes I went online, hoping I could disconnect the service that way. I made my way through several screens searching for something that allowed me to discontinue service. Finally I found it, clicked it and got a message that said please call verizon to disconnect service. Sweet Jesus…that is screwed up! I have to say that everyone I spoke to was very friendly and helpful. But seriously how far does that go when one is ready to toss the phone off a cliff?

I kept my cool and was actually really nice to them, probably because they sincerely seemed interested in helping me and were trying their best to make sure the service was taken care of. Of course some of my frustration came from listening to their FIOS bullshit advertizing for almost an hour. It’s pretty pathetic when you’re trying to advertize your services to those of us who aleady have them! Give it a freaking rest! In the end I have actually disconnected service and received friendly support while doing it. Would I recommend anyone else calling Verizon today… not a freaking chance!


Change Your Life Through Travel
Inspiring Tales and Tips for Richer, Fuller, More Adventurous Living
By: Jillian Robinson

Jillian has created a book that delights the reader with her experiences around the globe and at the same time touches them with insights and tips for creating changes in their own lives. I was touched by her second chapter entitled Take More Risks. I especially liked this statement.

Risk suggests possible loss or danger. And fear of loss often preoccupies our lives. What if we embraced loss instead? What if we regarded every possible loss as an opportunity to create something new? Doors close, windows open.”

After reading Changing Your Life Through Travel I believe Jillian will touch her readers with her insightful thoughts and tips chapter by chapter. Jillian’s chapters include; Slow Down and Live in the Moment, Feel Sexy, Step into Your Courage and many others. In each chapter she weaves her experiences along with those of others to create a chapter of travel experiences that inspire and touch the reader. She then concludes each chapter with three tips to help the reader create adventures in their own lives. Absolutely worth a read!

My mom, Jane Christmas of 1996

With the rush and emotion of Christmas approaching even I, who have been down the road of healing grief for many years have some emotional and painful moments. A couple days ago as I was contemplating my day and the many tasks ahead of me I felt a wave of missing my parents rush over me. My parents have both passed over into spirit and even now many years into healing I have days that still feel deeply overwhelming without those I love most near me.

In that moment of missing them, I turned to my old standby of opening a book to any random page and seeing the message that spirit will bring me. On this day, in this moment the message was clearly my mother showing her presence and her support in my life. It was a beautiful and inspiring moment that I wanted to share so others may feel comforted as well.

The book I chose to open was called When God Winks This is a book of instances where people have found, just as I that someone was watching over them, supporting them or helping them in their moments of need and that it was much more than a simple coincidence, that it is god’s way of watching over our lives.

The page that I opened up was about Barbara Streisand and her experiences of making the movie Yentyl, which she made in honor of her father who had died. As I read the piece about her experience of feeling her father’s knowing of her making this movie I suddenly began to have my own moment of knowing.

Vividly I was reminded how much my mother adored Barbara Streisand and that she used to have a large movie poster of the movie Yentyl hanging above her office desk at home. The poster was of Barbara Striesand in character from the movie. I had received the movie poster while living in California many years ago and had given it to my mom knowing how much she loved Barbara Streisand. In that moment of reading about Barbara Striesand and Yentyl I realized without a single doubt that my mom was showing her prescence so that I would understand clearly that her love is surrounding me and supporting me still from heaven.

I think each of us who grieves can relate to the desire of wishing for just one more day with a special person we love, who has passed on. This is the topic of the movie, For One More Day, created from the book by the same name. The movie will be shown on Sunday Dec 9th. This book was written by Mitch Albom who also wrote The Five People You Meet in Heaven and Tuesdays with Morrie. For One More Day

A few days ago I wrote a post that was very close to my heart about what it feels like to grieve at the holidays, and because I have a google alert that tells me when people use my post in their blog or site I was able to find out that someone who doesn’t have respect for my work has attatched portions of my post on grieving at the holidays into a post of theirs on a completely unrelated topic!! I might not mind that the post was linked to their blog; with the proper credit to my blog IF THEIR BLOG HAD ANYTHING TO DO WITH HEALING, GRIEF, LOSS OR RELATIONSHIPS. It is NONE of the above and I remain quite DISPLEASED. I even posted a very clear comment on their blog specifically ASKING that they remove my text. They have not.

So, I am speaking out on my blog to you to say I find this highjacking of a sincere post I spent a lot of time and emotion writing distasteful and downright WRONG. So if by chance you find yourself searching the topic grieving at the holidays and you find yourself there, at that blog, which has nothing to do with grieving please leave a comment about this for them. Thank you for being patient with my displeasure. I put a lot of love, effort and time into this blog to help others, to show people the steps I’ve taken to heal, and to help each of you who visit find ways to heal your own pain, so when someone takes something so special to me and uses it in a very unprofessional way, I am very displeased. If you are grieving at the holidays and would like to read the original post, please scroll down two previous posts.Have a blessed day!